I have a story recently, and I've just had to accept it.I've no idea what I'll do if I see

them again

Basically, I have a best friend (female) since I was 18 (35 now). It's never been easy, but we've been through a lot. I hadn't heard from her in a couple of years, but she got wind early July that my father had died

She was very supportive on the phone, and on messenger, and then we agreed to meet. When it came to the day, I went to meet her, and she stood me up. I know she got the messages, because of the old 'seen' on facebook. No reply, and no explanation days later. I still haven't got one

In bereavement, this set off some of biggest inner rages I've ever had. It also made extremely vulnerable and not all that trusting of anybody (the fact she found out was a surprise, my friends only did from seeing siblings posts on facebook)

Up till mid July, I was so tempted to message her with "what the actual f**k? Why would you do this?"

Eventually, I just accept she has a bent up reasons. I'd have preferred she not got in contact at all if that was the only gesture available. But she did what she did, and I have to live with it

It's a shame, because I'll probably let her go from my core now. I'd never dream of trampling all over someone in such a tragedy.

It's on her for what she did. People do act and make some horrific complacent choices, and if they do to hurt you, then that's their own issue

You'll find out in time where you are with yours, or whether you'll move on. Do so with peace though

Looking backwards or dwelling on things is pretty much the biggest thief of life

Posted By: pants on August 1st 2014 at 12:25:10

Message Thread

why is life so fucking hard... (NCFC) - oh huckerby, Aug 1, 09:50:08
- I have a story recently, and I've just had to accept it.I've no idea what I'll do if I see (NCFC) - pants, Aug 1, 12:25:10
  - Sorry to hear about your old man Pant. (NCFC) - Arizona Bay, Aug 1, 13:37:27
    - on a physical level (NCFC) - pants, Aug 1, 13:46:43
- what's up (n/m) (NCFC) - earlydoors, Aug 1, 09:52:48
- So that you can appreciate the good times (n/m) (NCFC) - Larry Hagman, Aug 1, 09:52:45
- Some good listeners on here if you want to have a rant, mate. (n/m) (NCFC) - norway, Aug 1, 09:52:38
  - no good times... (NCFC) - oh huckerby, Aug 1, 09:57:00
    - I'm afraid that's what 'some' women do (NCFC) - pants, Aug 1, 11:48:59
      - Good point... (NCFC) - Pixelman, Aug 1, 12:17:03
      - You should leave better tips...... (NCFC) - usacanary, Aug 1, 11:58:44
    - Well.................................... .... (NCFC) - Larry Hagman, Aug 1, 11:00:40
      - yea...she has one (NCFC) - oh huckerby, Aug 1, 11:26:52
        
        Sorry, I misread one as none... but... (NCFC) - Larry Hagman, Aug 1, 13:52:31
    - ouch (NCFC) - CWC, Aug 1, 10:55:00
    - been there mate. took me a year to get over it. but you do and you will. (n/m) (NCFC) - Pit, Aug 1, 10:42:13
    - Feel for you... went through something very similar and (NCFC) - Pixelman, Aug 1, 10:15:43
      - What do you think happens? (NCFC) - pants, Aug 1, 12:08:34
    - Blunt answer warning!!! (NCFC) - harry boulders, Aug 1, 10:15:35
      - out of order that hb (n/m) (NCFC) - Pit, Aug 1, 10:40:23
      - Well, blunt is about right. (n/m) (NCFC) - APB, Aug 1, 10:29:33
      - That's just pure conjecture and completely unnecessary. (n/m) (NCFC) - avid_canary, Aug 1, 10:29:15
      - Unnecessary. (n/m) (NCFC) - avenging canary, Aug 1, 10:26:25
      - Nice. (n/m) (NCFC) - lurd, Aug 1, 10:21:36
    - Time. (NCFC) - APB, Aug 1, 10:12:35
      - Yep, forgive, and grow (NCFC) - pants, Aug 1, 12:14:16
    - I'm sorry to hear that mate (NCFC) - Old Man, Aug 1, 10:07:26
    - hang in there buddy, get some quality time with your kids (NCFC) - Mozzer, Aug 1, 10:05:16
    - Good lord, that is very complex! Stay sober and spend time with friends. (NCFC) - trafford_canary, Aug 1, 10:03:44
    - Then you need to try and do something which is almost impossible to consider (NCFC) - norway, Aug 1, 10:02:45
    - Did you do a smell up the USB? (NCFC) - strap_on sally, Aug 1, 10:02:24

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