first of all...
sorry to hear of your situation, been going through similar so can empathise, it's a wild ride. would recommend a trip to see your gp and solicit his advice re care funding options for your mother. it may be that if she is in palliative care then the state will fund her end of days care. ideally if you can then it would be prudent to get power of attorney (x 2) over her financial and property affairs and her health and welfare matters.
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you may be able to qualify for carers allowance have a looky here... User Posted Link
also have a look at attendance allowance to see if you or other family members qualify
also if your mum is below the savings threshold then the council may pick up the tab User Posted Link
start looking for a care home now and seek advice from professional bodies.
get a needs assessment done (it's free) User Posted Link
top tip: you cannot do this on your own no matter how strong you think you are, it will grind you into the ground and break you if you try.
in short, get help from professional organisations...
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Posted By: Tombs on July 18th 2025 at 08:39:01
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- Reaching out for care home advice or information. Desperate (General Chat) - DiscoDale, Jul 18, 07:54:11
- No advice to give but every sympathy, one of my sisters has just had a diagnosis today (General Chat) - watfordcanary, Jul 18, 14:16:25
- Wish you all the best. Some great advice in this thread. 💚💛 (n/m) (General Chat) - Boyer, Jul 18, 13:37:46
- Good luck DD. Terrible thing Dementia - recently lost (General Chat) - Pixelman, Jul 18, 12:17:04
- Condolences to you. I heard about your dad at my mum’s funeral last month. (General Chat) - APB, Jul 18, 14:12:00
- sorry to hear ... (General Chat) - Pixelman, Jul 18, 14:27:43
- Condolences to you. I heard about your dad at my mum’s funeral last month. (General Chat) - APB, Jul 18, 14:12:00
- Good luck buddy, some great tips on this thread (n/m) (General Chat) - Old Git, Jul 18, 12:08:44
- I hope you are able to sort things out (General Chat) - camcan, Jul 18, 10:49:24
- FAO DiscoDale (General Chat) - LincolnshireCanary, Jul 18, 10:36:52
- I can't offer anything I'm afraid but I sincerely hope you get this sorted (General Chat) - strap_on sally, Jul 18, 10:08:59
- Good luck, old age is certainly not for the cowardly (General Chat) - paulg, Jul 18, 09:56:15
- Good luck with it all DD (n/m) (General Chat) - shoddy, Jul 18, 09:47:22
- Have you done a smelly up the usb? (General Chat) - Charles21, Jul 18, 09:40:04
- Good luck chap (n/m) (General Chat) - Augustus Pablo, Jul 18, 09:37:40
- 👏 This is the wrath at its best (General Chat) - Nelsons final flanel, Jul 18, 09:16:17
- vmt ^^^ (n/m) (General Chat) - DrDublin, Jul 18, 14:12:21
- I was just going to post the same. (General Chat) - Klobo04, Jul 18, 09:17:42
- Thirded (n/m) (General Chat) - Knitted Jesus, Jul 18, 12:16:10
- You have to do the following: (General Chat) - Tony Martin, Jul 18, 09:12:43
- We've just done a CoP application (General Chat) - Captain Bligh, Jul 18, 11:41:47
- My partners built up a business from nothing based on that (General Chat) - Tony Martin, Jul 18, 12:02:10
- We've just done a CoP application (General Chat) - Captain Bligh, Jul 18, 11:41:47
- Drop me an email - happy to chat on this (General Chat) - AndyVegas, Jul 18, 08:56:25
- 🫡 (General Chat) - Tombs, Jul 18, 09:06:21
- I used James McKenzie for my will. Great service! (n/m) (General Chat) - Wilts, Jul 18, 10:50:35
- Coincidence... (General Chat) - AndyVegas, Jul 18, 15:03:33
- I used James McKenzie for my will. Great service! (n/m) (General Chat) - Wilts, Jul 18, 10:50:35
- 🫡 (General Chat) - Tombs, Jul 18, 09:06:21
- sorry to read about your situation ,and unfortunately can't offer any help or advice ... (General Chat) - ghostof barry butler, Jul 18, 08:43:41
- Has anyone got power of attorney? Has your mother made a will? (General Chat) - APB, Jul 18, 08:43:25
- Is your father lucid? (General Chat) - 51eve, Jul 18, 08:40:40
- first of all... (General Chat) - Tombs, Jul 18, 08:39:01
- Also this above from Tombs! (General Chat) - AndyVegas, Jul 18, 09:03:08
- This ^^^ (n/m) (General Chat) - APB, Jul 18, 08:46:06
- You need specialist advice tbf but is there a Doctor.... (General Chat) - Saucerer, Jul 18, 08:31:36
- Probably worth contacting Age Concern (n/m) (General Chat) - inutero, Jul 18, 08:18:52
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