If I may make a suggestion
attend the meeting, and do a lot of listening. Unless you're seriously doing something that's beyond you, which I doubt, you may find that it's all a lot less complex than you fear it is.
I remember a lot of years ago i was sat at work, finishing off a couple of things and getting ready to go home, when one of the lads kind of appeared at my shoulder and said "Alan can I have a word in private please?" He stank of sweat and his face was red as a beetroot - and this was an office job. So we stepped out into the corridor and he just unfurled a world of woe. He'd been promoted too early, he wasn't up to the task, he was going to go in and resign in the morning.
Reaasoning that if all the above were true, he'd just do it and not seek my blessing first, I pressed him gently to find out what exactly he was doing so catastrophically wrong and it emerged that it was all a lot harder work than he'd imagined and, after cutting out all the self-hatred s**te, that was about it.
So I gave him a few little tips and watched him relax in front of me. We never said another word on the subject. He was fine, and I understand he went from strength to strength afterwards. That's not because of the quality of my advice, it was just because I took the fright out of him.
so unless you've blagged a job as a scientist or interpreter or something that you're absolutely unqualified to do, just listen, work out what people expect and require from you, and provide that. You don't have to impress anyone, you just have to avoid being a dick. Which you aren't.
Posted By: Sugbad The Bad on October 8th 2013 at 19:37:48
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- Anyone from off of here ever feel out of their depth at work (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:17:32
- Nope (n/m) (General Chat) - CB41, Oct 8, 21:56:56
- I didn't get where I am today by being out of my depth at work (n/m) (General Chat) - yarmyyarmy, Oct 8, 20:22:57
- Absolute GROT (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 20:26:26
- I'm watching you Reggie.... (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 20:25:35
- Do bear in mind that if you are out of your depth (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Oct 8, 20:00:06
- I'd be happy to give your employers a crash course on situational leadership (General Chat) - The Editor of Milk, Oct 8, 19:49:14
- My advice to you would be to bring Wes back (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:45:21
- for you (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:45:51
- Charles...I'm trying to relieve the pressure. (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:53:00
- FOYSC (n/m) (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 19:54:42
- Thanks for that. (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:57:59
- are you deaf as well as a cunt? (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 19:59:43
- fuck off. Next question (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 20:03:02
- i'm only joking (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 20:04:17
- You've become noticeably more angry in the last year (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 20:09:51
- i'm only joking (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 20:04:17
- fuck off. Next question (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 20:03:02
- are you deaf as well as a cunt? (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 19:59:43
- Thanks for that. (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:57:59
- FOYSC (n/m) (General Chat) - Tombs, Oct 8, 19:54:42
- Charles...I'm trying to relieve the pressure. (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:53:00
- for you (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:45:51
- ask if you can wipe the tables down for a bit (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Oct 8, 19:42:30
- No. Your best is always good enough. (n/m) (General Chat) - dr fanta, Oct 8, 19:36:14
- Retire (n/m) (General Chat) - duke of york, Oct 8, 19:33:59
- Salutory lesson from my workplace this past few days. (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Oct 8, 19:32:38
- you can call him "Dr Fanta" (n/m) (General Chat) - dr fanta, Oct 8, 19:38:11
- did Dave get his money? (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:36:40
- He's still under contract, so still getting paid. (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Oct 8, 19:40:13
- ^Dave^ (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:34:12
- See now I was thinking that Chaz might have been Dave... (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 20:12:51
- Rabbit,rabbit....... (n/m) (General Chat) - protheroe fitzgibbon, Oct 8, 20:17:45
- rolf (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:34:46
- See now I was thinking that Chaz might have been Dave... (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 20:12:51
- write a list - prioritise your work - don't ignore the difficult stuff and ask for help (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:23:41
- I basically have a meeting (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:27:29
- If I may make a suggestion (General Chat) - Sugbad The Bad, Oct 8, 19:37:48
- Great advice that (General Chat) - ingi, Oct 8, 21:07:56
- cheers Sugs (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:42:07
- That's what I said, you bastard. (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 19:56:47
- sorry but (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 20:06:37
- Apart from when you're goading me of course. (n/m) (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 20:13:03
- sorry but (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 20:06:37
- no problem (General Chat) - Sugbad The Bad, Oct 8, 19:43:55
- That's what I said, you bastard. (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 19:56:47
- brought a tear to my eye - you big ole softy you! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:40:47
- to your hog's eye (General Chat) - Worzel Scrimmage, Oct 8, 20:53:46
- you knows it! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 21:00:44
- I know, a tear formed in mine too (General Chat) - Worzel Scrimmage, Oct 8, 21:56:32
- you knows it! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 21:00:44
- to your hog's eye (General Chat) - Worzel Scrimmage, Oct 8, 20:53:46
- Talk about what you do know (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 19:35:03
- just do your best (General Chat) - earthleakage, Oct 8, 19:30:07
- Next time you are unsure what to do (General Chat) - Klobo04, Oct 8, 19:33:48
- was thinking exactly the same thing (n/m) (General Chat) - earthleakage, Oct 8, 19:42:36
- Next time you are unsure what to do (General Chat) - Klobo04, Oct 8, 19:33:48
- go off sick that day! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:28:12
- haha (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:29:17
- have you got a colleague who can help you out? (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:32:53
- not really, as they are all incompetent too! (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:35:22
- delegate it anyway (n/m) (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 20:23:23
- suicide? (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:37:24
- It's not that bad yet! (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:41:25
- not really, as they are all incompetent too! (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:35:22
- have you got a colleague who can help you out? (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:32:53
- haha (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:29:17
- If I may make a suggestion (General Chat) - Sugbad The Bad, Oct 8, 19:37:48
- I basically have a meeting (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:27:29
- Do you have yearly or half yearly assessments? Ask for an early (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 19:22:30
- No never (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 19:19:45
- what if the reason for being out of your depth (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:22:32
- How did you... (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 19:27:18
- I can do most of my job (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:33:59
- When has being clever mattered? (General Chat) - norway, Oct 8, 19:26:04
- google the answer! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Oct 8, 19:24:37
- How did you... (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 8, 19:27:18
- what if the reason for being out of your depth (General Chat) - Charles21, Oct 8, 19:22:32
- Ask for advice. (n/m) (General Chat) - protheroe fitzgibbon, Oct 8, 19:18:32
- how hard is it to ask (General Chat) - earthleakage, Oct 8, 19:19:36
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