It is ridiculously unfair. I'm sorry she's having such a rotten time.

I had a similar experience at one school. I kept notes and wrote a letter expressing my concerns as I was intimidated and dismissed when I tried talking. I copied in the head who interviewed me. He was pretty weak about the whole thing and his solution was that I go to him and avoid talking to the teacher concerned (the deputy). It was unworkable and in the end I left. Honestly it was the best thing ever!

It's lovely to be working with normal people again. I hadn't realised how miserable and how undermined she'd made me feel. I could have stayed and battled on but life is much too short for that.

Good luck to your wife. I hope it gets sorted and she comes out the other side feeling happy.

Posted By: Bravo win or die on March 24th 2016 at 18:32:40

Message Thread

Employment and workplace bullying advice (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 17:07:23
- I work as a DH in an academy... I recommend (General Chat) - conkers, Mar 24, 22:01:19
  - Gathering evidence is important, but once they suspect this, she'll face their wrath I (General Chat) - essexcanaryOTBC, Mar 24, 23:27:05
- 1st thing. Tell her to contact ACAS asap and take their advice/go from there. (General Chat) - essexcanaryOTBC, Mar 24, 21:10:23
- Invoke the grievance procedure, they have to have one by law. (n/m) (General Chat) - Kirrie, Mar 24, 20:05:01
- Take the Mary option (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Mar 24, 20:04:25
- I don't know what the procedures are raising a grievance but (General Chat) - emmaroyds, Mar 24, 18:22:10
  - Cheers. Yes it has really affected her mentally if I'm honest. (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:24:40
    - my wife just resigned (General Chat) - Tombs, Mar 24, 18:50:39
      - Is your wife a teacher Tombs? (n/m) (General Chat) - Bravo win or die, Mar 24, 19:11:23
        
        yep, she was a deputy head (General Chat) - Tombs, Mar 24, 19:41:56
- Send a solicitor letter expressing your views and it gives you strong position if things., (General Chat) - Hulk Rules, Mar 24, 18:05:03
  - Yes tempted to do this. Cheers (n/m) (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:08:23
    - Can't she speak to the head of the school about it? (n/m) (General Chat) - Larry Hagman, Mar 24, 18:14:24
      - No he's useless and doesn't ever help his workforce (n/m) (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:17:32
        
        Need to put it in writing, that is absolutely crucial. Verbal means nothing I'm afraid (n/m) (General Chat) - Hulk Rules, Mar 24, 18:33:37
- smell up the usb? (General Chat) - Charles21, Mar 24, 17:58:56
  - That's what my daughter-in-law did, and got a better job to boot (n/m) (General Chat) - CB41, Mar 24, 18:09:54
  - Seems a bit unfair given she's not in the wrong and got a good job (n/m) (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:04:30
    - It is ridiculously unfair. I'm sorry she's having such a rotten time. (General Chat) - Bravo win or die, Mar 24, 18:32:40
      - Cheers bwod. She's got her eye on a nice school but just a case of waiting (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:40:05
        
        Be nice to her when she's at home (I'm sure you are!) and cheer that it's the Easter hols! (n/m) (General Chat) - Bravo win or die, Mar 24, 18:44:27
- If it's an Academy, probably f**k all apart from resign. This is (General Chat) - CB41, Mar 24, 17:56:19
  - Hardly unregulated. From all the crap she puts up with its more regulated than ever (n/m) (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:01:03
- She should register a grievance, as per policy in her company handbook (n/m) (General Chat) - bjg123, Mar 24, 17:38:59
  - She's worried it will just get worse though if she does that (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 17:46:09
    - Very likely it will get worse sadly. Key is stealth and get advice from Union/ACAS (ASAP!) (n/m) (General Chat) - essexcanaryOTBC, Mar 24, 23:29:30
    - The friends with students on Facebook thing is quite a tricky one. (General Chat) - APB, Mar 24, 17:54:57
      - On the feedback forms from the pupils (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:00:10
        
        speak to her union. should have an advice line. do you have legal expenses cover? (General Chat) - CWC, Mar 24, 18:11:15
        
        Yeah might check that. She can't use the union rep as he's from the same dept (General Chat) - Sonic, Mar 24, 18:20:54
        
        the union will have someone she can talk to (General Chat) - CWC, Mar 24, 18:24:43
        
        They do indeed. (General Chat) - APB, Mar 24, 19:51:00
- If the school wasn't an Academy then your wife could speak to the council (General Chat) - Larry Hagman, Mar 24, 17:22:09
  - Correct it is privatisation and no accountability (n/m) (General Chat) - colincanary, Mar 24, 18:22:33
- Buy a spy pen for the top pocket and a dictaphone (n/m) (General Chat) - harry boulders, Mar 24, 17:18:15

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