before you can afford it!

Having two babies is expensive!

Can't comment personally on the age gap, but we have 6 month old twins and two babies that are utterly dependent on you means lots of planning and hard work. Doesn't leave a lot of time for other things. Lots of stuff that is dead simple to do with one baby (eg a quick shopping trip into town, even just going for a coffee), suddenly becomes a fully planned out mission. On many occasion I've wished one of them was old enough to walk / do things for themselves / not require such a massive f**king buggy. But at least I don't generally have to worry about where the older one has crawled/toddled off to whilst changing the younger one's nappy - that would give me (more) grey hair...

Friends of ours had twins when their eldest was two - I think they found it 'challenging' and needed lots of parental support but, now they are older, that's a nice gap.

Brother-in-law had two girls 12 months apart and the eldest got shoved into childcare as soon as they could - thus missing out on a lot of those great baby years and having lots of her 'firsts' described to them by nursery staff. Very sad (but in this case that was down to the parents more than anything else).

Biggest factor, I suspect, is how broody your wife/partner is. I'm not sure I can hold out for another 3-4 years of "I miss being pregnant. When do you think we should have another baby??" Aaargh!

Posted By: CWC on January 16th 2014 at 15:23:09

Message Thread

When is too soon to have a second baby? (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:36:01
- 13 months between my two. (n/m) (General Chat) - Arganth, Jan 16, 19:15:47
- before you can afford it! (General Chat) - CWC, Jan 16, 15:23:09
- Less than 9 months (n/m) (General Chat) - Ken Dodds Dads Dog, Jan 16, 15:01:13
- pros and cons either way really and (General Chat) - Jim, Jan 16, 14:35:31
  - Best to double bubble it in my opnion. Take them both through each stage. (General Chat) - Pit, Jan 16, 14:37:34
    - True but then you see some people with 2 or 3 kids under 5 (General Chat) - Jim, Jan 16, 14:38:47
      - Ah yes. But he difference between 2 and 3 is massive. Its exponential. (n/m) (General Chat) - Pit, Jan 16, 14:48:13
- a little over 2 and a half years for ours (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Jan 16, 13:48:24
- When pig semen is the only viable option (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Jan 16, 13:27:40
- If you're driving... and don't call me baby (n/m) (General Chat) - Upperjarroldmiddle, Jan 16, 13:21:53
- If you haven't had a first one. (n/m) (General Chat) - Pixelman, Jan 16, 13:15:34
- When you are 14 (n/m) (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Jan 16, 13:13:07
- Eleven months between my two (General Chat) - loughboroughcanary, Jan 16, 13:10:29
  - Me too, twas a bit of a shock. (n/m) (General Chat) - trustsec, Jan 16, 14:00:30
  - awesome (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 13:32:53
  - Meant to say makes perfect sense in hindsight (n/m) (General Chat) - loughboroughcanary, Jan 16, 13:11:41
- Our girls are 2 1/2 years apart (General Chat) - KentonCanary, Jan 16, 13:03:52
- call me old fashioned but would you not be better discussing this with your partner... (General Chat) - Tombs, Jan 16, 13:00:04
  - I don't. I think he should allow all of his major life decisions to be chosen by the Wroth (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Jan 16, 14:13:41
  - I don't think his partner has had 2 children, although I could be wrong... (n/m) (General Chat) - Vivid Data Shark, Jan 16, 13:34:37
  - old fashioned ^^ (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 13:33:47
- Our first two were thirteen months apart, wife was late 20s, me early 30s (General Chat) - Old Man, Jan 16, 12:49:46
  - Christ - that's keen. (n/m) (General Chat) - norway, Jan 16, 12:51:11
    - Got caught the first month of trying, both times. (General Chat) - Old Man, Jan 16, 12:52:40
      - Good going. Old Man = "The Sniper" (n/m) (General Chat) - bird table, Jan 16, 12:59:18
      - Ha! I know that. (General Chat) - norway, Jan 16, 12:55:47
- Before the stiches heal. (n/m) (General Chat) - harry boulders, Jan 16, 12:47:25
- Year 9 Double Maths, at least wait til after lunch, crappy History (n/m) (General Chat) - chuftncfc, Jan 16, 12:46:45
- Once the first one is starting to become less dependant I'd say. (General Chat) - bird table, Jan 16, 12:44:14
  - 24? (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:46:09
- Let her get back from the hospital first.... (General Chat) - yellowman, Jan 16, 12:42:48
  - there barely were any nurses in our hospital (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:43:24
- half eight (n/m) (General Chat) - Tricky Hawes, Jan 16, 12:40:49
  - no (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:44:24
- ever (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Jan 16, 12:39:43
  - thank you for your comment (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:42:43
    - should be a 1 child policy like china (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Jan 16, 12:43:08
      - Haven't they got rid of that? (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:44:05
        
        2 allowed if 1 parent an only child (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Jan 16, 12:46:19
- Depends on many factors (General Chat) - norway, Jan 16, 12:38:44
  - Newborn baby + 2 year old = (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:42:07
    - Doable, 23 months between ours, they are good mates now... (n/m) (General Chat) - Vivid Data Shark, Jan 16, 12:52:52
    - Both (General Chat) - Drurys Left Nut, Jan 16, 12:49:52
      - excellent (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:53:37
    - From experience... yes, it is hard work for a few years but worth it (General Chat) - Larry Hagman, Jan 16, 12:49:45
    - Most people see that as about the earliest to start (General Chat) - norway, Jan 16, 12:46:15
      - good stuff (General Chat) - Charles21, Jan 16, 12:56:40
        
        Are you erecting a joke thread here ? (n/m) (General Chat) - Pit, Jan 16, 13:28:19

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