I'd adapt your friendship if you can

I'd do things with him that don't involve him drinking or being on drugs

That way you're not encouraging him, but sub-conciously, if you're sat in a coffee shop with him on a Saturday lunchtime, instead of night time, he'll work out that you don't approve, but will respect that you still want to know him without judging him

If your the guy who's never said anything, but has been around, you'll be the guy he'll go to when he needs help. If he gets it, and recovers, you'll be the guy he thinks the most of in life, cos you didn't give up

Posted By: pants on October 12th 2011 at 15:27:20

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This may seem a weird thing to ask the wrath sorry, but (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 14:55:52
- Drop him/her as soon as possible ... (General Chat) - meeky, Oct 12, 16:21:32
- we wish pants all the best (n/m) (General Chat) - selwyn, Oct 12, 15:04:57
  - LOL (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Oct 12, 15:08:33
    - Do you two think of yourselves more as Rod Hull and Emu (General Chat) - King, Oct 12, 15:26:25
      - The Three Stooges (n/m) (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Oct 12, 15:43:52
      - Dumb and Dumber (n/m) (General Chat) - Pixelman, Oct 12, 15:38:16
      - Little and Large (n/m) (General Chat) - Huge Small, Oct 12, 15:29:52
      - morecambe and wise (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Oct 12, 15:28:17
        
        I'm erring toward Rod Hull and Emu (General Chat) - King, Oct 12, 15:41:11
        
        Human centipede... (General Chat) - Dandy Highburyman, Oct 12, 15:45:17
        
        only more of a circle (n/m) (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Oct 12, 15:56:37
        
        we like to rotate (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, Oct 12, 15:42:03
      - Stated where I'm at with this, it's often levelled at me as the blame though (General Chat) - pants, Oct 12, 15:28:02
    - ignore deluxe (n/m) (General Chat) - pants, Oct 12, 15:12:57
- What do you consider excessive O1D? (n/m) (General Chat) - Dandy Highburyman, Oct 12, 15:01:16
  - Bottle of gin on the night before work...3 or 4 times a week (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:03:07
    - When did it escalate? (n/m) (General Chat) - Dandy Highburyman, Oct 12, 15:19:03
      - Always been recreational and a laugh until probably 6-7 months ago (n/m) (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:31:03
        
        I think you should say you've noticed it's increasing... (General Chat) - Dandy Highburyman, Oct 12, 15:44:29
        
        Thanks DH, I will take it all into account and try to figure out what the fuck to say (n/m) (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:52:23
        
        maybe "don't take this the wrong way, but you're my friend and I'm a bit worried about you (n/m) (General Chat) - Worzel Scrimmage, Oct 12, 16:53:47
- Be up front with him straight away and tell him it is time to regain control (n/m) (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Oct 12, 14:58:12
  - you could also deny its happening (General Chat) - ghostof barry butler, Oct 12, 15:00:12
  - And be aware that he might.. (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Oct 12, 14:59:08
    - Thanks Steve. Whenever me or a mate tries to speak about it (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:00:55
      - Well this is how it will go.... (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Oct 12, 15:05:43
        
        Thanks again. I would agree around 2-3 too (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:09:26
        
        I'd adapt your friendship if you can (General Chat) - pants, Oct 12, 15:27:20
        
        Thanks for the advice pants, I have to say doing activities that wouldn't involve (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:31:56
        
        Good point from pants. Alcoholic friend of mine avoids (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Oct 12, 15:36:12
        
        Is he a complete nob-head when on the harder stuff? (n/m) (General Chat) - Huge Small, Oct 12, 15:33:41
        
        No more than anybody else (n/m) (General Chat) - Only1Doherty, Oct 12, 15:37:37
        
        Sadly it's gonna have to come from within him. What you need to do is convince him it is (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Oct 12, 15:11:50
        
        just be very careful - whilst i appreciate he is your (General Chat) - green n yella beaver, Oct 12, 15:17:09

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