Eulogies

Sadly, I have delivered eulogies for both my parents and two other relatives in the past couple of years.

I think its better if a family member or a friend can say something, unless the deceased was religious and was well known by a vicar or priest.

If they werent known to the vicar/priest , anything they say can come across as being unreal.

Try to keep things simple, dont speak for longer than 10 mins at most.

Ask several people for recollections, it makes the talk more rounded and you will find ouit things about the person that you never realised.

Only do it if you can hold yourself together, its not easy, but well worth it as a mark of respect.

Good luck.

Posted By: dreamteam on March 22nd 2010 at 14:39:48

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I'll regret asking on here I'm sure, but has anyone (sensible) ever had (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Mar 22, 12:56:27
- Eulogies (General Chat) - dreamteam, Mar 22, 14:39:48
  - Annie Lennox is rubbish! (n/m) (General Chat) - Jumbo1, Mar 22, 15:09:51
- don't ask bigfella to write it.... (n/m) (General Chat) - jayson blair, Mar 22, 13:38:17
- My brother delivered one for my Dad?s funeral in 2003 (General Chat) - KentonCanary, Mar 22, 13:33:07
- I wrote one for my Dad's funeral, but I'm not sensible. (n/m) (General Chat) - malkybarkid, Mar 22, 13:16:09
- the priest at my dad's funeral advised against any of us family members delivering a eulog (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:07:53
  - That's what I was referring to. I get so fucked off with priests with smug speeches about (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Mar 22, 13:11:42
    - i doubt blame the priest - i can see that he meant well (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:18:23
      - Best off banning the priests and just celebrating the life I think (n/m) (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Mar 22, 13:21:05
        
        which is fine for you and me (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:34:30
        
        That is what I grapple with though. I mean, they're dead. Funerals are for those left. (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Mar 22, 13:38:11
        
        i know it's a crock of shit (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:50:11
      - *don't* not *doubt* (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:19:01
    - oh well (n/m) (General Chat) - pants, Mar 22, 13:12:50
  - all 3 of us children did one each for my dads funeral... (General Chat) - Cheltenham_Canary, Mar 22, 13:10:24
    - for me, that's how it should be (General Chat) - Ralf Scrampton, Mar 22, 13:15:07
- Don't say anything horrible (n/m) (General Chat) - lurd, Mar 22, 13:07:11
- I wrote one for my uncle's funeral last year. (General Chat) - Ottosson Foxtrot, Mar 22, 13:01:12
  - Cheers. (n/m) (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Mar 22, 13:03:53
- Dunno if I count as sensible, or quite what counts as a eulogy, but (General Chat) - Tricky Hawes, Mar 22, 12:59:44
  - Any advice? I'm fine with the actual talking bit. (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Mar 22, 13:05:44
    - Well, this is gonna sound like cliches, but I think you're trying to do two things (General Chat) - Tricky Hawes, Mar 22, 13:13:13
    - As Otto says... (General Chat) - Fierce Panda, Mar 22, 13:08:33
- i once had to..... (General Chat) - Cheltenham_Canary, Mar 22, 12:58:55
- For somebody who recently died, or a genuine one ? (n/m) (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Mar 22, 12:58:19
  - What? Both. A genuine one for someone who recently died. (n/m) (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Mar 22, 13:00:51
    - No, that I have never done and hope never to do, although I am sure I will eventually (General Chat) - Steve in Holland, Mar 22, 13:05:59

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