Yes, no, maybe

Had years of this - including a rant from my ex yesterday, which got sorted out okay but not until she'd wound up CCanaryJr who is in the middle of his GCSEs. He lives with me the vast majority of the time, but has a decent relationship with his mum and is looking to start spending a bit more time up there.

My personal approach has been to try and equip Jr to cope with it as best he can & to be the calm and steady one.

In the instance you mention you could offer to look after him if his mum has social stuff planned (depends if you're able to negotiate that in a tit for tat manner and not have it as too disruptive to his routines).

Each person's circs are different - but generally approaching things as neutral as possible with the kid and the ex has generally worked for me (luckily I have sympathetic friends at whom I can vent). I know there's stuff that I do that narks in the opposite direction - tbh I've reached a stage where I can mostly let it wash over me.

But yeah - aiming for calm and constructive would be my top tip.

And if being the reasonable one who refuses to engage with anything shouty enrages... Well, that can be a bonus too... Heheheh

Posted By: Cardiff Canary on May 17th 2022 at 08:47:16

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wrath advice required (General Chat) - shoddy, May 17, 08:35:23
- You need to respect the will of the people (n/m) (General Chat) - ChampsChamps2023, May 17, 13:09:26
  - Supernanny has spoken.... (General Chat) - Captain Bligh, May 17, 15:03:48
- if you think its wrong ... its wrong (n/m) (General Chat) - ghostof barry butler, May 17, 08:50:08
  - Profound (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 08:53:02
    - why (n/m) (General Chat) - ghostof barry butler, May 17, 09:09:58
    - Interesting thread on gas (General Chat) - SCC 28, May 17, 09:05:26
      - Love those threads (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 09:32:18
      - Saw that earlier (General Chat) - jamesward, May 17, 09:14:12
        
        No (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 09:39:10
        
        though the price cap doesn't allow for anything like 10% (n/m) (General Chat) - watfordcanary, May 17, 11:56:14
        
        As I said. Price cap B2C is massively loss making (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 12:10:47
        
        The margin built in is less that 2% and yes, most standard tariffs are loss making now (n/m) (General Chat) - watfordcanary, May 17, 12:42:20
        
        all SVTs I'd imagine (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 14:06:20
        
        I'm going by an article in the Guardian on the makeup of the cap (General Chat) - watfordcanary, May 17, 15:16:07
        
        ah (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 15:20:27
        
        And if we get back to where things were (General Chat) - SCC 28, May 17, 10:01:02
        
        depends... (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 10:33:03
        
        Cheers (General Chat) - SCC 28, May 17, 10:52:38
        
        Not sure that the cap will but new fixed deals might (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 11:23:01
        
        Right, ta (n/m) (General Chat) - jamesward, May 17, 09:53:19
  - What if he’s wrong? (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, May 17, 08:51:11
    - Then he's wrong. (n/m) (General Chat) - protheroe fitzgibbon, May 17, 10:24:31
    - It's his truth, so right and wrong don't count (n/m) (General Chat) - paulg, May 17, 10:04:42
      - Can we stop banging on about Todd Cantwell please? (n/m) (General Chat) - jamesward, May 17, 10:41:07
      - Profound (n/m) (General Chat) - SCC 28, May 17, 10:06:39
        
        Sounds a bit snowflake to me (n/m) (General Chat) - Legacy Fan, May 17, 10:12:31
- Yes, no, maybe (General Chat) - Cardiff Canary, May 17, 08:47:16
  - ^^^ (General Chat) - CWC, May 17, 08:58:25

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