FAO: Know alls; parental advice required

Tombs Jr the eldest is primed and ready to deploy on OPERATION UNIVERSITY.

GROUND: (General) Sorted, Kingston upon Thames. (Detailed) Reccy carried out and place of residence booked, looks fine.
SITUATION: H hour -5 days, concern and confusion apparent in both parents regarding financial backing
MISSION: To support son financially through university but not to hand everything on a plate in order that he becomes independent.
EXECUTION: Come up with detailed plan and deliver by 5pm this evening. No deviation.
ADMIN/LOGISTICS: Myself and 2 i/c will drive son to line of departure saturday a.m. probably stop for grub en-route to target.
COMMAND & SIGNALS: Supreme Commander to control movements of son in and out of university at all times. Mobile phones to be used.

Thing is, I can plan all this s**t ^^^blindfolded but, BUT .....

Where do I draw the line financially? Should I pay for everything and allow him to embark on life after he completes Uni free and un-encumbered by debt? Or, should I just pay for Tuition or Acccom or both? or; nothing and let him get into and out of debt thereby learning to fly solo in life? Any ideas/tips/life experiences shared will be greatfully appreciated.

Posted By: Tombs on September 14th 2009 at 10:49:52

Message Thread

FAO: Know alls; parental advice required (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 10:49:52
- open door and apply boot to backside with the words "see you in a couple of years" (General Chat) - Pixelman, Sep 14, 12:53:17
- You give them a loan which they pay you back when earning. (General Chat) - Army Boy, Sep 14, 11:32:21
  - Correct answer (General Chat) - scruffy, Sep 14, 11:59:08
- thanks one and all (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:21:11
  - Will force mine to go to UEA and live at home (General Chat) - duke of york, Sep 14, 11:22:39
    - the yoof they dun't want to stay local though (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:28:16
    - by the time yours are uni-age (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:24:07
      - Only 7 years... (General Chat) - duke of york, Sep 14, 11:34:18
        
        you're probably not far from the truth (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:38:24
        
        see them 5 O levels? they are mine (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:42:06
        
        Me too (General Chat) - duke of york, Sep 14, 11:45:15
        
        exactly (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:49:40
        
        Would be good if schools could give a 'trade' option earlier on. Mebbe. (General Chat) - megson, Sep 14, 12:09:08
        
        This sort of thing already happens (General Chat) - Clare, Sep 14, 12:47:31
        
        ALAN exams? I'd piss 'em! (General Chat) - DJ Ginga, Sep 14, 12:55:33
        
        they both drive Lexi. (n/m) (General Chat) - Cheltenham_Canary, Sep 14, 13:24:28
        
        I've got Directors coming out of my taps (General Chat) - DJ Ginga, Sep 14, 13:38:57
        
        Lynn, Lynn - they're "sex" people! (n/m) (General Chat) - Cheltenham_Canary, Sep 14, 13:44:15
        
        Shitty zombies! (General Chat) - DJ Ginga, Sep 14, 14:26:23
        
        Really? That sounds good that does. Useful too. (n/m) (General Chat) - megson, Sep 14, 12:49:53
        
        more or less how it used to be (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 12:13:12
        
        you could be Elton Johns's Father in-law (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:37:46
      - University of Lunch!! (n/m) (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:28:42
        
        I have a third class degree in Lunch Studies from Trunch (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:30:02
        
        I have a hunch that you have a Doctorate of the Trunch Lunch Munch? (n/m) (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:31:56
        
        Of my qualifications, yes, it's one of a bunch (n/m) (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:34:39
        
        *whispered* (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 11:39:38
        
        gosh (General Chat) - camcan, Sep 14, 11:50:40
- Well (General Chat) - mike_the_sphinx, Sep 14, 11:15:14
- I'm in exactly this situation with (General Chat) - BillySteele, Sep 14, 11:01:26
- I reckon a lot depends on the quality of the degree he's doing and how well you think he's (General Chat) - Arizona Bay, Sep 14, 11:00:42
  - ^^^ what i was thinking. (n/m) (General Chat) - megson, Sep 14, 11:04:01
- dont forget CLAP (General Chat) - Cheltenham_Canary, Sep 14, 11:00:29
- option c. (General Chat) - Ken Dodds Dads Dog, Sep 14, 10:58:54
- Advice to give him.... (General Chat) - Disco, Sep 14, 10:58:51
  - Ha ha...... (General Chat) - Johnny Comecardiff, Sep 14, 11:00:25
- Some one told me recently... (General Chat) - Clare, Sep 14, 10:55:18
  - they need to do that kind of thing with benefits too (n/m) (General Chat) - Charles21, Sep 14, 11:16:05
  - That's a good idea. Lots of pre-paid cards around too. Find a good one (General Chat) - megson, Sep 14, 11:00:20
    - They're expensive from what I've seen so far, but I'm gonna get a paypal one (General Chat) - pants, Sep 14, 14:42:08
- I'm no parent, but my advice would be to tell him, (General Chat) - tudders, Sep 14, 10:52:55
  - check (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 10:55:41
- Sounds like he is a big boy now. (General Chat) - shoddy, Sep 14, 10:52:31
  - 25k of debt is the norm intut? (General Chat) - Tombs, Sep 14, 10:53:54
    - Yes (General Chat) - Johnny Comecardiff, Sep 14, 10:59:03
    - Yep. I think it is disgusting that students have to become so in debt in the UK (General Chat) - shoddy, Sep 14, 10:56:15

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