A mesage for those who booed the manager and saw negative things all afternoon

You boo the manager at full time.
I can’t even.

The people behind me complained throughout the game.
Not like “oh that’s not very good”, but enraged, angry, bitter, vicious. At the players, at the manager, indiscriminately.
When we scored I turned round and they were just sat there.
They were just sat there.

It made me wonder whether some people are just not able to be positive? That psychologically they do not have access to those emotions and decisions?
If you come on some level expecting or willing to see only negative things, that is what will happen, and it will pan out that way because you decided it.
I often call out “great supporters” online - those who criticise everything - but maybe I am wrong. Maybe being and offering that kind of support is not available to some people.

"That's called happy clapping. You're a happy clapper."
No it isn't. What I'm suggesting is that it is possible to have access to ALL the things. Not JUST the bad ones.

But not just at the football, right?
I would ask: Where in your life are you happy? When do you clap?
Could you bring some of that energy to Carrow Road on a Saturday afternoon? Can you actually physically, psychologically do it?

Everyone is inviting you to come and practice, to experiment in a fairly safe environment to see if you are actually able to bring positivity into as much light as negativity in your mind, and in the stands.
The manager asked for that yesterday. So many times it is asked for and encouraged.

You can choose to start, and you can choose in each moment to keep trying. Or you cal fall back.
You’re not being invited to be ONLY positive. It is OK to be unhappy and to think that it wasn’t very good and it is also OK to be OK and to say "Right, here we are. I am going to choose". You can choose what you want. But why do you always choose the dark things?

And: where else in your life do you start off hoping for the best, but at the first setback, you give up, that anger and bitterness takes over again, you lose yourself.
And today you won. Your anger and negativity and criticism took over. And it was a self-fulfilling prophecy. You started off thinking you were going to feel s**t and - guess what - you feel s**t now, angry and blame-filled.

It is what it is.

What are you going to do - sack the manager? Managers become lightning rods for all this anger and all this shadow that people don’t seem able or willing to deal with.

I see this as a serious problem in our world. People are angry and they give up and fall into their anger and their hatred of other people.

Where’s it going to end? You don’t like brown people so you vote to get rid of them. But YOUR LIFE GETS WORSE as a result of that vote.
You shout at the players and direct your anger at them and boo them and complain all the time.

Five games ago they won the league and today you booed them.
Where’s it going to end?

When is it ever going to be enough?
Enough to just be here?

"I pay my money, I'm entitled to criticise".

Yes. You pay your money to have a go at life. You can choose to spend it however you like.

But how about choosing this: it’s not perfect. It’s not always what you want. Sometimes it’s better and sometimes it’s worse. But when is it going to be OK to accept what IS?
That it is enough to be here and to be alive.

What’s the alternative? To spend your whole life blind, angry, wishing that it were different?
It isn’t different. It IS.

You are in the darkness and you are keeping yourself there.
And it is not about the football.
It is about you. This is about you.

Posted By: Yarf, Sep 18, 17:49:43